Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Vision Boards and Defining Self

Today I am working on two projects, one (a vision board) is an assignment from my coach and the other is the result of Brendon Burchard's 6 Guiding Questions for High Performers.  I think I will begin with these three questions he asks himself everyday:

  1. Am I living my truth?
  2. What 3 words really define who I am as a person
  3. What 3 words define how I should interact with others?

1) Am I living my truth?  Well, I don't really know! I never thought much about this, just sort of drifted along with the life I had carved out for myself, or that which was the result of circumstances surrounding either my decisions or those who influenced me.  However, I would like to reconnect with that and truly live my truth--that is, who I want to be based on a conscious decision.

So, who exactly am I? It would be easy to jump in and say what I do... I am a homemaker, or I am a wife, mom, etc.  But I don't think that what I do, or my position in a company really defines my nature, which is I believe the purpose of the exercise.

Ornery and I have gained a great deal of insight through the messages of Dr. Jim Richards, and one of the things he often says is that we should get our sense of self-worth by agreeing with what the scriptures tell us who God says we are in Christ. We have already been given everything we need for life and godliness, (2 Peter 1:3) and we are created in His image (Genesis 1:27) so we have attributes of His nature.  Among other attributes, His nature is love, (I John 4:8) and His grace is ever expanding our capacity (2 Cor. 12:9) to receive the good things He has already provided for us (2 Cor 1:20)

2) So now I think I have the three words that define Tracy:

  • First, as a child of God, I believe my nature is love. That would encompass just about any other thing I would want to be, but for the sake of the exercise, I will add two more words that define myself as I want to be known.  
  • Second, I would say I am creative. Whether with my art or solving a problem, I seem to be able to step outside the expected box and view life from a different perspective. 
  • And finally, I would say I am encouraging, which could certainly be an aspect of love, but I think it needs to have its own bullet point. :)
3) So, the three words that define how I should interact with others need also to align with the truth of who I am.  I interact with others:
  • loving- genuinely caring about others rather than being concerned with how they feel about me.
  • vibrant- bringing creative energy into the relationship or conversation so they leave feeling energized and open to new and bigger things than they imagined
  • encouraging- building up their confidence and helping them to see the good in their situation, life, etc. by sharing encouragement and genuine concern for their well being and ways to express gratitude. 

Am I living my truth?  Most days I don't have much interaction with other people, but I try to live out these defining words in my life whenever I can. In the past I was more judgmental than loving, and didn't realize how important that characteristic was, or maybe rather I didn't understand just how to go about doing that--being that. But now I DO know how important it is, and I am a work in progress for the learning how to do that in every situation. But I'm getting there.

Before I go tackle the vision board, I want to say that was a good exercise!  Have you thought about the 3 words that define you? or the 3 words you want to have define the way you interact with others?  Please share!


Julie Steed said...

What a thought-provoking post I rarely take the time to be introspective about my life, but I know that today I will be mulling over these questions.

I am curious about your vision board...

orneryswife said...

Julie: I will post photos once I have it done. I keep getting distracted! :)

Birgit said...

Very philosophical. I actually do think I live by truth to myself. Sometimes that is when I am standing all alone because I take a stand. I could not say a word but if it goes against my belief then I must be truthful to myself or I could not be the person I am. Of course it is always a work in progress but we have to live with our own selves. I would say I am creative, love to help, listen. Others may say I am dependable, caring, funny. My boos just stated I am blunt. I am that too